If you have been to New York or Washington DC and have never been to museums your time there was wasted. South Florida is the place where there are the least number of museums, art galleries and scientific exhibitions. That makes me travel to other states and admire the culture that we don’t have here. Oh, let me correct myself. We do have culture but it is so diverse that I don’t even get it. For example, I remember there was a month devoted to Haitian culture and all I get to see is spicy food that they were feeding the crowds. It was ok, but I couldn’t tell what I have learnt new about Haitian culture after that whole month of me rumbling in downtown Miami. I honestly think it takes more than food to get acquainted with culture.

It surprised me however, boyfriends and my opinions took different directions when it comes to art, being specific to modern painters. There is no doubt anybody can appreciate Michelangelo or Rembrandt but not so many people understand modern art. We think that some kinds of geometrical figures are pieces of art and pay for tickets to see them while a three year old can scribble that thing on paper easily. You can do it yourself at home and save some bucks. At the end it might be the fact that you have enjoyed that art. If you find something in it, there must be something there that I do not see with my naked eyes. I didn’t study any kind of art, just finished musical school, studied ballet and took class on culture for a year so I cannot just push my humble opinion what is art and what is work of a toddler.

It is also so commercialized now and if someone influential mentioned in some non-influential papers that certain artist is genius than next morning everybody will follow him. It is just chick to do so some might say by waving their hand. So we all just follow fashion without questioning it’s beauty, are we all so dumb that we don’t even have an opinion of our own?!
That’s how I felt when my husband spent several minutes in front of a painting that I wouldn’t hang even in my garage. Where art thou?

Me? Yes! Some particular ones.  Some are turn off.  They don’t have to be fancy or expensive to work on a women’s brain.  But I do wonder about men. I heard one comedian to mention that why women wear floral perfumes,  men don’t like flowers, they like woody and manly scents.  So then I seriously started thinking about switching to a men’s cologne just to attract men.  Another problem comes along  with that-  should men wear floral perfumes to attract women?!  They most likely wouldn’t. Or shouldn’t.  Then they would lose all their attributes and become gay, wouldn’t they?

When I held that experiment wearing men’s cologne zero men approached me. Maybe not  a  lucky day you would say, but a little dog came to me and started sniffing me.  I laughed too hard when I found out that was a girl. So done with experiments  I bought “Cordovan” for my boy-friend.  He loves it and it really turns me on.  As for me I was aiming at Victoria’s Secret since they have all those sexy little things and found an Angel body lotion.  Other than that  nothing outstanding, they better stay in underwear section without going to  cosmetics.

Having done a lot of work researching colognes and their ability to work on mutual attraction between genders I came to a conclusion that best cologne ever invented were male and female hormonal glands which produce  smell that is specific to every individual.  No wonder,  I thought  Napoleon used to send a solder ahead with  a note to Josephine telling her not to shower, that he is coming.  The smell of  a man is  the best cologne that turns on women.

There might be an  ugly male friend who has great personality and no, you don’t want to have sex with him, even with good looking ones.  Sometimes it’s beneficial to be friends with men rather than getting  closer and ruining the friendship.   A male friend can help you out in many situations when you don’t want a potential  boy-friend to know your situation.  Men always lie and if you have been friends with them usually they don’t and even more than that- they will tell you their whole love adventures.  Decide for yourself if you still want to have sex with him after all you know about him.

It’s always easy to find someone to have sex with, harder to find someone to be friends with.  One of the frequent mistakes of youth are two best friends to have sex.  Regret, disappointment and embarrassment are the feeling that most  ruin the friendship.  Once the step is taken there is no way to turn back. I don’t believe in being friends after breaking up as boyfriend and girlfriend, but I do believe in being friends without having sex. Not all but some women’s brain work same way as men’s.  Women have same ambitions, abilities and chances to be successful, just we are interested in opposites- men in women and vise versa.

Also we won’t count women being friends with gay men.  Even if she is sexually attracted to him, most likely he is not.  So no reason to get jealous there.  Friendship between man and woman is one of the precious things that many husbands and wives do not understand. Skeptics on one side and romantics who believe in purity of everything get into emotional discussions about friendship between men and women.  But hey, let me tell you about my friend. He is great man. A man you can rely on, trust and party with.  We were close friends for almost 10 years now, I wish I could find a man like him to be my husband.  I will never have sex with him because I don’t want to loose everything I have: love, friendship, care.  A friendship between man and woman is strongest due to absence of jealousy, mistrust and feeling that someone better will come along the way.

Every women of the past knew that the way to a man’s heart lies through his stomach.  Things have changed dramatically nowadays and many men cook much better than the average woman.  The variety of  exotic  cuisine makes your head dizzy.  Men  are falling in love with restaurants more than with women and their home cooked meals.  Women have less time to concentrate on family, their cooking skills, even kids. They barely have time to get their nails done.   How  would a modern woman find time to improve her cooking skills in order for that man to fall in love with her? 

Another question rises as we talk about modern women and hectic life schedule-  Do you think a man will choose a woman who cooks better if another one is successful in her career but her cooking leaves few survivors?  Men always want a full package: looks and brains.  Is a nice personality there as well?  What about cooking skills, being sporty, artsy and etc.?   It seems like men have divided into two leagues, the ones who want a beautiful wife to take care of him, cook for him, etc and others who want a career woman and don’t mind eating out a lot.  Those who are still flying somewhere in the clouds want both or even more.

So now women try different tricks to fool men and  get into their hearts.  The stores full of half cooked meals, even ready meals which you just have to heat up and serve. You can even order from a restaurant and make your man believe you have cooked yourself. Later, when he will be in love with you can tell him the truth and he will only laugh about that and maybe even love you more for creativity.  We are so far from a stone age right now that men  will love any woman even without delicious meals.  If she happens to be a good cook, it’s just an attribute of  any modern person.

Sophisticated men are rare gemstones to be found nowadays.  Remember  men from past and couple centuries ago? They were all sophisticated, had more respect to women and would fight in a duel  for woman’s reputation instead of suing  each other.  Manners were impeccable, clothes worn were stylish and private education.  No wonder women liked them.  But what modern women should do? Accept their men as they are?

Some of the modern sophisticated men are definitely George Clooney, Prince Charles and Barack Obama. Times might have changed and now not a cane,  but nice case is one of the accessories of everyday men.  Depending on the event  men wear different watches, ties and colognes. That are the best visual proofs of a man’s sophistication.  Men might not always giveaway a taxi for a woman,  but opening the doors and seating a woman to the best place in the restaurants is a must.  Many men know it but not too many do.

If anybody have noticed nice glasses are becoming popular among sophisticated men.  How a  professional, sophisticated man can charm  people around without nice  glasses?  Also shoes are very important, remember Nixon loved Italian Ferragamo  shoes and Frost’s success was halfway after that.  As  a woman the first thing I look in a man’s outfit is his shoes.  Nice suit, tie and fresh (usually woody)  cologne is a nice start for conversation.
That’s why  sophisticated look plays a big deal with women.  Even though they love shiny things they still prefer their men to be classy, sophisticated and successful.

Who doesn’t want to date an attractive woman? Nobody?  Ok, good.  Since the revolution of make-up and cosmetics there are no more ugly women left.  So now all women are beautiful.  But attractiveness is a different thing.  Not only beauty makes woman attractive.  A woman might be beautiful   and at the same time very unattractive.   Is that sugar and spice and everything nice makes woman attractive?

Intelligence accompanying a woman’s beauty can make her incredibly attractive.  Men are visual but if there is nothing  left to talk about they get bored  very easily When he calls it’s always better to call him back within 2 day or he will lose  any interest.  Busy men can easily find another attractive woman to date, but it’s too hard to find tall, dark and rich man.

While dining make sure you know how to use  your fork and knife.  Being knowledgeable in that department can be a big bonus as not so many people  go to the  best French restaurants every day.  As well as table manners makes anybody attractive.

Very light but sexy perfume is always turn on.  There is no need to mention that  tasteful  classy clothes make women even more attractive.  Men don’t like trashy women and can really appreciate  nice outfit.

Millionaire bachelors are the biggest interest for other, less fortunate  population of the singles’  world.  Majority of millionaire bachelors are afraid to settle down and legalize their relationships due to the big material value they carry into marriage.  They absolutely true that other parties might be more interested in their account balance however not all girls are money determined.  We are talking about gold diggers and all kinds of other bunnies.

There are many millionaire bachelors who want to have a girl-friend, relationships and just someone who really cares for them and not only for their money.  The biggest problem of those bachelors is time. They never have time, they work too much or party too much.  With latter it might be harder to form any kind of relationship if you have stable job and many other responsibilities.  So, let’s talk about  other, potential  husbands and  boy-friends.

Still, for  Cinderella it might be little hard to find a millionaire bachelor, especially if she doesn’t have a fairy who would give her designer clothes, nice car and professional make-up it is quite hard to get the attention of  millionaire bachelor.   He goes to upscale places, private beaches and  royal dinners.  So hoe does Cinderella get to those places?  First would be good connection, second  natural beauty and  intelligence plus education.  Usually wealthy men have higher demands and ready to give back a lot as well.   Once the meeting happens the plan is pretty simple- mesmerize him, keep him hypnotized  with your brains and beauty and while he is under hypnosis marry him.   Done, forgotten.  Ha, no more millionaire bachelor.

Women love men even if they are only little better than an ape in the jungle, as long as they have big heart, are charismatic and  says the things  woman wants to hear.  Women don’t fall in love only because of men’s good looks .  Women always have a dilemma that if a man is nice to her- he is usually ugly.  If she is with a handsome man then he is not that nice to her.  And if she finally finds a man that is handsome, nice and has money then he is married.  So could she go back to her first choice- nice but ugly man if he had money?
Does money really make a man more handsome?

Unfortunately yes, but not everybody.  Unfortunately there are things that even wonder woman couldn’t change.  They are in the mind of a man- ignorance, evil and greediness.  Money can make a man  more handsome only if he learns never to rely on that.  Women love to be swept off their feet and when a man  makes it gradually it lasts lifelong. Throwing all your money in front of  a woman to conquer her not the best move.   If you are not that fortunate man and have money and still want to impress women don’t just think having money will help you. 

Women are not after your money, at least not all of them, or at least none that you want.  Let her know that you have some extra skills nobody else have.  Be it that you can program on the oldest language of programming  Pascal or bake excellent bread on Sunday mornings.  It even can be  that you write books, poems  or the  fastest horse rider in your horse club.  Women love  winners so show her how skillfully you play golf and win  all the tennis sets.

After she fell in love with all your talents and therefore with you too, then it’s the right time to show off with some money:  take her to nice vacation,  order the whole restaurant  for a  romantic dinner with her.  Believe me, after all that she will love you  and will think that you are the most handsome man in the world.

Do opposites attract? It has been proven by Oprah and Dr Phil that it’s not true. Opposites do attract initially but cannot stay together for a long time.  Can anybody imagine a truck driver dating Angelina Jolie? No. She prefers to be alone if not with someone on the same level. So she has chosen to be with Brad Pitt instead of sweaty, hairy truck driver.  Then why so many beautiful women are with ugly men?!

Psychologists and some theorists define it as a substitution of some complexes that even the most beautiful women have.  And also many beautiful people cannot be together because of competition.  Have you ever seen a beautiful girl having more beautiful girl-friend?  No, everybody wants to be the center of attention.  So being with an ugly man a beautiful woman gets all the attention and appreciated from head to toe.

Another women choose to be with ugly men because most of ugly men are rich.  An irony of that type of relationships is that a beautiful woman will find even the ugliest man on earth attractive  if a man is rich. Funny thing is that ugly men love beautiful women too, they are also satisfying the hunger for beauty that they don’t get when they look in the mirror.  Ugly men do all kinds of things to keep a beautiful woman they got so hard.  Always keep her busy with vacations and here and there little surprises.  So they both benefit from dating each other.

Most people think of prostitute or hooker when they hear of sugarbabe. Contrary to that many sugar babies have proved that they are different than women of an ancient profession.  They give love  not just sex,  they care  about man and accompany him on different type of trips.  Many men are interested in having a sugarbabe because when they meet with clients or have any negotiations it’s always better to have a sugarbabe with.  How would she help in a deal being successful? Simply.  She just has to show up.  Her beauty and sexiness will mesmerize opponents or whoever he needs to be and the deal is closed.  Many men take advantage of having such a wonderful sugarbabe.

A sugarbabe  should be also smart to keep the man stimulated. After a month with the most beautiful girl in the world if she is dumb it becomes boring.  A degree in psychology would be handy as sugarbabe is someone who will listen to her man’s problems and make him feel comfortable.  If she is a good cook it’s even better as many men would stay discreet  and visit  a  sugarbabe in her place or some common place where they meet without going out to restaurants.  There are many qualities that sugar babes posses but the most important ones to be a really  good sugarbabe are:  beauty, nice body,  brains and all womanly positive qualities.  As you become a really caring sugarbabe, the more successful is your relationships with your sugar daddy.  The best sugar babies get whatever they want.

What is No strings relationships?  Is it  different type of relationships than traditional ones?  Some would say yes, but for some it is traditional type of relationships.  As a no strings I understand that two free people run together but anytime one of them  can fly away.  Is it fair to a partner? Yes. They did come together to this decision to have such type of partnership and no cries later!

Now who does usually have such a relationships?  Most cases indicate that they are young  and beautiful people.  They don’t  want to tie themselves up to one person, so when “better”  candidate comes along the way they can easily “drop” the old one and jump into another NSAR.  Another majority of the users of No Strings  Attached Relationships are married men. Why? Just because they are already attached.

There are many advantages as well as disadvantages of No Strings  Attached Relationships.  Good sides are like: 
-you are free to go any time
-you don’t have to meet his parents and vice versa.
-nobody bombards you cell phone just to ask where you are.
-you can date another person at the same time or little after.

Bad sides:

-you feel like nobody really cares about you.
-if you fall in love with that person your heart is broken forever.
-you are usually secondary to other person in their life.
-you cannot share with your too personal stuff, because hey, that’s NSA!

Still, it’s a personal choice. After being in such a relationships one or twice you will decide yourself whether it’s your cup of tea or not.

For the outsiders it might seem that all sugar daddy dates are full of champagne, caviar and spa days.  Afraid to disappoint you if you have never met a sugar daddy in your life. No. Not all of them are so perfect. However some  can be outstanding and you might remember them for the  rest  of your life.  Like  fireworks  made especially for you.

It was my 22nd birthday when my sugar daddy was acting very differently and I was suspecting some surprise. Jewelry, perfumes and other material possessions were already dull and I wanted something outstanding. Something that  would bid  all previous ones. Emotionally I prepared myself for the worst- a piece of jewelry.  Needless to say that gift went beyond my imagination.  And I do have biggest imagination, that’s why I wanted to become a designer.

When my sugar daddy said he had perfect gift for me  I almost laughed.  He had huge sense of humor and he gave me a wrapped box. Hey, good things come in small packages, but this one was also light. Ok, I’m curious now.  Wow! That’s a certificate that one of the best designer schools in Germany was waiting for me in September for 6 moths course of designing fashionable clothes!  That is within  a month from today…  I was so surprised. I never thought he listened to me when I said that I would love to go there. All expenses are paid. Good to have a perfect sugar daddy, but better to get the gifts that you want.

So I had an incredible time in Germany, missed my perfect sugar daddy even though he had visited me at least three times during 6 months. Romance is not the biggest attribute of sugar daddy world but luxurious life is the first sign you have a perfect sugar daddy.

What is the reason many younger women prefer to date older men?  What are they attracted to that many younger men can’t give them? Are older men as good as aged wine or cheese?  Do they taste better when they are older?  In despite age differences  younger women like older men because of other factors like experience, generosity and they are best sugar daddies.  Middle aged man can be a sugar daddy as well, but how well,  who knows?

It looks like older men like the age gap between them and their women.  Who we should ask benefits more from this situation?  Older man or younger woman?  Both ways many people would say. Especially those sugar daddies and their younger women.  Every party agrees that they benefit the most, that’s why they are in such a relationships.  Older men are so proud to walk around with a much younger cutie.  They just tremble inside from the thought that all men envy them and all women want to be in the place of that cutie.

Young women dating older men would say that they feel more appreciated and treated better than they would with men of their age. Older men are financially stable and can afford many things that are not accessible when you are much younger.  So why not to choose  better thing of this life?  Let the younger men work hard and maybe one day they can be sugar daddies too.

Sugar daddy. When I say it what do you think about?  Candy, big-happy-generous man,  new shoes or getaway to Hawaii? Does anybody think about love?  Why love? Just because in the past sugar daddy was an older man who is rich, generous and always surround with gay (happy)  people. They all party, have fun and entertained. And most important  part-  nobody was obliged to have any kind of intimate relationships.  I suspect men are the ones who started to change the whole concept of sugar daddy.  It doesn’t mean what it meant then.  Men are not happy with just spending good time in a nice company, they want to have  relationships with a woman they go places. 

Many women would tell that they never had a single kiss  with many men they went places and men always used to take the whole financial responsibility for the trip. Sounds innocent.  What did men think? Did they wanted something more than just a travel companion?  Maybe they were too shy to show their real intentions?  In any occasion, now everybody knows what they want and women’s attitude changed as well.  They became more demanding and are not in a hurry to jump into relationships.  Eventually sugar daddies are rich, older, generous men who want to date younger than them women and some just have long-term fun relationships or  possible serious ending.  Men do want a stable relationships, but not serious and women are opposite.  So sugar daddies do not come from some sweet country, they are just guys next door, with good job, loads of money and zest for fun.

I’ve been trying to fall in love with this person for a comparatively long time.  I’m giving up.  I just can’t.  Any men I have dated before I loved but they were not right for me. And I knew that. I guess that’s why I broke up with them all. This one was special.  Why? Just because he was nice.  Why women tend to love bad guys?  Nice guys always finish last. This one seems to be too nice, even for me.

I had enough Mr. Wrongs in my life and as any woman was waiting for my Mr. Right.  When my Mr. Right came along the way I cannot appreciate him and be for him.  I want adventure and more and more freedom.  Mr. Right is not always Mr. Passion.  Some men are born to buy us nice things and some us to love.  I have already cheated on my Mr. Right and it made it clear that I cannot love him.

Maybe it is true that some women are just meant to run wild and need a companion from time to time to accompany them, but they cannot stay in one town.  The air becomes too stuffy and  they look for an escape.  That how I’m feeling now. I like the man, but the idea of me staying and having a family scares me.  It will tie me up by my neck and it will kill me.  When I told him that he was quiet and then said he doesn’t want me to die, he better let me go…  I know I will never meet a man like him, I know I will meet a lot of wrong guys but maybe  my Mr. Right is still waiting for me.

Usually millionaire men’s age range is from 30- 60. Not so many women want men in their 60s though. Also depends how old is the woman herself. For women in their 40s men in their 60s are great match.  What we are looking at are men from 30 to 50. I guess that is the limit. Yes, it is harder to make a rich man want you, only you. Only because they have many choices besides you.  One of the tricks is to be inapproachable.  For rich men to get a young and beautiful woman takes two seconds.  Finally the game becomes uninteresting and they cannot eat that cake every day anymore.  So spice it up. Make it challengeable. Never call him first. Rich man is very busy man, but that doesn’t mean he cannot find time for you. Never answer to his calls from the first ring, wait until last. If you missed his call do not return.  He will be curious and will call again.  Tell him you were so busy, but would love to meet him with the first chance you will have.  Ask him to call you in a couple of days. When he will call arrange a date for a week after. 

On the date. Be natural, be yourself. Review the menu of the restaurant at home if you have never been to that place. If you are not smart enough, at least try to look as one.  If you met him online, he probably had written his hobbies, so try to make a research about the things that he likes. And remember all the interesting details he mentions in his profile. Impress him. He thought you were so busy and barely made time for him and now you are so well informed and showing real interest in him.  Do not forget to be sexy and dress nicely. Some women think being dressed vulgar and sexy is the same thing. No. Be classy and sexy at the same time. It is easy, believe me. I am like that every day.

To be continued…

Let’s say you go on one of the sites where only rich men live.  You find yourself one, because you are beautiful, slim, young and plus smart.  He says he will take you on a ride on his yacht or fly to Italy for opera on his private jet. And you believe.  What if not?  How to check if a man behind the screen is as rich as he says?

Rather than doing background check before you even have met arrange a date in some public place. Casino, restaurant, parks; any place except private jets and yachts. He can come dressed very simple, but stylish and very expensive.

You can put two men wearing shorts and one’s would be from Target and another’s  at least from Brooks Brothers.  Pay attention to shoes.  Many people look at the car, but hey he can rent Lamborghini or Bentley for a month to fool you! Even when he will show you his villa it might not be his.
The only thing you can rely is how he acts. Does he act as a master of the world?  Does he put a careless smile when you spill red wine on a Persian carpet?  Does he take you out only to the best restaurants?  Analyze it and before jumping into relationship and loosing your head check the ground instead of background.

Love with Spanish men is hot and full of  emotions but not always stable.  I tried to stay with Alfredo  not only because he was rich, but love felt so intense.  We spent most of our time on the road traveling somewhere.  Now I think and it scares me that we were kissing while he was driving, sometime he would stop on a highway putting he emergency signal just for us to kiss. I start yelling at my current boyfriend when he talks on the phone or starts texting,  but he doesn’t know what I used to do while driving.

Because Alfredo was such a good lover and very emotional I always was afraid that he might cheat on me  very easily.  He had a lot of female friends who were  very beautiful.  Not that I’m insecure and not beautiful, but I wasn’t  sure what might be behind those emotions.  Love or just emotions. We used to quarrel a  lot, it was so sour after sweet kisses. But  there were some nice surprises, gifts and new destinations every time following the quarrels.  I don’t know how it lasted almost 6 months,  maybe because he used to travel for work a lot and it gave us some gaps to miss each other. One day we both woke up and decided to stop our emotional rollercoaster, but I still get dizzy when I think about that relationship.

Have anybody thought about that?  Why in “Cinderella”  stepmother is a witch, or b?  Usually it is an old and single woman who underwent her menopause and became very-very bad. She wants to turn all handsome princes into frogs so beautiful girls had to kiss a frog first and then wait it to turn into prince.  Hans Andersen was one of the best with his “Snow Queen” describing a lonely frozen-hearted woman who wants love. Love  of a young boy. 

I might be wrong but the only negative and love desiring male character is Jafar from  “Aladdin”.  Other than that all witches are women.  What does it tell us?  I think men should stop and think what they might encounter with if they don’t stop ignoring women and give them love.  Love is all we need. Plus some care and tender, and preferably deep pockets. Latter can play bigger role that many other attributes.  So I would call all single men come together (or work independently) and leave no single women. Otherwise they will become snow queens, witches and just a nasty, poor  little things.

We tried to play games  as couples and I didn’t know a lot  about my boyfriend.  I didn’t know he likes cotton candy and Disney vacations.  Many other thing revealed as we were playing.  He couldn’t guess that I love to cook,  even if I don’t do it so often.  The hardest part came when the question about his dream car he never had was read out loud.  What?  He is a rich man, he can have any car he wants, especially the  car he dreamed about. 

So,  as  a  joke I just said that it must be ford focus. Everybody laughed. What else he needs  when he has the best car any man can  dream about.  His answer was some model of  BMW.  How come?  Does that mean I don’t know my man at all?  What was his dream girlfriend he never had?  Or he already has one he dreamed all his life?   It made me think a lot about what he really wants from me as his girlfriend.  He always knew that money was one of the most important things for me, then personality and physical attraction only on the third place.  So what men dream about as for their women to be?